Under Pressure – Are You Getting It Right?
It’s a question every massage therapist wrestles with at some point:
“Am I using the right amount of pressure?”
Pressure is one of the most subjective elements of massage therapy. What feels perfect to one client may feel far too light—or far too intense—to another. And unlike temperature or timing, there’s no standard setting. It’s a moving target based on anatomy, preference, pain tolerance, and mood.
Why Getting It Right Matters
Pressure can make or break a treatment. Too light, and clients may leave feeling unsatisfied or like the session didn’t do much. Too deep, and they might feel bruised, tense, or even reluctant to come back.
Getting it “just right” helps build trust, encourages rebooking, and supports your client’s comfort and safety. But how do you know what that is?
3 Ways to Gauge Pressure
- Ask—and Keep Asking
Check in during the session, especially after you’ve started working on a new area. Keep the questions short.
If you ask “Is this pressure okay?” you’re likely to get a yes—which may or may not be the truth. People often feel they can’t speak up. I used to be like this. Instead, it may be better to ask: “Would you like more or less here?” This invites a more honest response.
Try not to lead them—they may hesitate to speak up unless invited.
- Watch and Feel for Feedback
Non-verbal cues are often more telling than words. Are they tensing up, clenching their jaw, holding their breath, or pulling away slightly? These signs suggest discomfort. Conversely, sighs, deep breathing, or shoulders dropping may indicate they’re settling in.
- Educate Gently
Some clients think “more pressure = better massage.” It’s okay to explain that effective treatment doesn’t always mean deep pressure. Try saying:
“We can work more deeply if needed, but we want to stay within your comfort zone so your body can relax and respond.”
What to Do If They Want More
Sometimes, clients ask for deeper pressure than you’re comfortable giving—or than is appropriate for their condition.
Here’s how to respond professionally:
- Be Honest About Your Limits
“I’ll work as deeply as I can within what I know to be safe and effective.” - Use Techniques, Not Force
Rather than muscling in, use body dynamics and tools like forearms, knuckles, or slower strokes to achieve depth more comfortably—for both you and them. - Reframe Their Expectations
“We’ll aim to release the tension, but not overload your nervous system. It’s about working with your body, not against it.”
Final Thought
There’s no universal formula for perfect pressure. But clear communication, sensitive observation, and confidence in your professional judgement go a long way. When clients feel heard, respected, and comfortable, they’re far more likely to return.